Don't Let Anything Dull Your Sparkle: Doreen Virtue

The book is a self-help book; dealing with the issue of Stress in our lives, and talks about how many 'traumas' or life events; such as deaths, birth, job problems etc, lead to emotional feelings of loss of safety and unpredictability.  This leads us to be hyper vigilant which causes stress.  Of course the main focus of the book is the need for us to Relax.

In relation to writing and creativity, I find the notion of having a 'Drama Detox' very interesting.  One of the items that is listed under detoxing is Procrastinating and getting behind schedule. But other items include cutting out stressful TV, stressful friends, overspending, bad foods and (self imposed?) time pressures.  For someone who has struggled with OCD in the past, (myself), Doreen discusses this as a desire to run away from fear and pain.  I think this is linked to Procrastination in a big way.  Therefore, we need to face our emotions in order to remove the need for procrastination or OCD.

So, pay attention to your internal signals.  Don't immediately react. You can have control over your reaction to stress. 

Take steps to restore your inner glow.  Have a best friend relationship with yourself.  Take care of yourself and don't push yourself too far.  Spend your time in meaningful ways and Have Fun!

She goes on to give us a list of 'Healthful behaviours'.  This list includes artistic and creative endeavours, as well as more obvious relaxation such as massage, relaxing music and deep breathing.   She also emphasises the need for you to do what your soul calls you to do!

She also touches on the subject of 'Approval Seeking'.  In relation to writing, you are the one who can give yourself that approval.  You ARE good enough!   As for other people, we can't control other people actions, only our reactions to them.  Don't take things personally as any criticism is a reflection on them, not you!  Be assertive, calm and mature.  Remind yourself often of your accomplishments and who you are as a person.  No one can take that away from you!